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Once you’ve made the decision to propose, conversations about jewelry will become instantly interesting. I’m talking about any hint you can get — from whether she likes the vintage style of her friend’s engagement ring to what she may or may not have so subtly pinned to her inspiration board. If you don’t have enough info, but you’ve both talked about marriage (which hopefully you have), you might even want to take a day to browse rings together. It doesn’t mean you should walk into the nearest jewelry store, pick one out, swipe the credit card, and propose right there. And although it may sound a little unromantic, it’ll definitely help ensure you end up giving her something she really likes.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve known your partner’s parents for five months or five years, formally asking for their daughter’s hand in marriage isn’t exactly comfortable. It’s kind of like jumping off the high dive. You’re pumped until you’re at the edge of the board looking down into the pool. My advice? Just do it. Now is not the time to be secretive or discreet with her family. And if you’re the traditional type, you’ll agree that the act of asking shows respect and appreciation for the other person’s family. They’ll love you more for it.
This is just too big of a purchase not to get an opinion on. And even if you are a private person, ring shopping is the time to open your inner circle and invite in someone with experience. Ask previously engaged friends for great jeweler recommendations. You might even want to take that friend with you on your first ring shopping trip to help offer support and back up your opinions.
Sure we get gift-giving right from time to time, but for the most part we rarely hit a home run. Now is the time to knock it out of the park. To be sure you score major points, confide in someone close to your partner to see if they can gather some feelers as to what she’s been thinking about, or if there was something she saw in a magazine that really caught her eye. You can also bring them with you to make the purchase, as a second opinion. Your girlfriend’s girlfriends will probably love nothing more than to come with you, do research for you or even help you plan the proposal. They are your best allies in this venture, hands-down. Just don’t tell too many people. (The more who know, the more likely it is that someone will accidentally let it slip.)
When guys shop for their ladies, they tend to think it’s only the effort that counts. Not true. This is not a present where only credit counts. This is the time when you ditch your tastes or favorite stores, and think, “What would she really like?” You may love gold but she prefers platinum. You may like one cut, but she prefers another. It may be your wallet but remember it’s her ring. You don’t have to wear it for the rest of your life, she does. So always, always, always (did I say always enough times?) think about what she would buy, not what you like.
If you’ve ever bought a car and thought it was stressful, multiply that by nine. Ring shopping is the World Champion of Stressful Moments in a man’s life. But if done properly, it can also be one of the most memorable purchases you’ll ever make. I’m talking specifically about learning the 4Cs — that is the diamond’s cut, carat, clarity, and color. Put it this way: If you buy a ring without considering the 4Cs, it’s like buying an expensive car because of the price, and then finding out it has a crappy engine, a rust-filled body, and won’t last you a week. So take the time to study up before you shop.
One thing you’ll find out is that the diamond and the setting do not always have to come as one package. Yes, it’s easier to buy a ring as you see it, but you can buy the setting and diamond separately, and then have the jeweler make your own custom ring. But don’t let the word “custom” overwhelm you; this does not mean “expensive”. What this means is you happen to like the stone on one ring, and the setting on another, and now you can make your perfect engagement ring. It never hurts to ask. I promise you, the jeweler will do whatever they can to make you happy.
Let’s face it: Regardless of your budget, buying an engagement is going to be expensive. You will not find a Groupon or Living Social deal for the perfect ring. Almost without fail, you’ll say you are set on one price and then you’ll feel pressured to go higher. Don’t be afraid to tell the jeweler your limit and remain firm. If upping the carat means count means you skipping out on a few month’s rent, then it’s time you put the breaks on. Believe it or not, when you go to buy an engagement ring, you are in the driver seat, and not the smiling person across the counter. It’s your money, your time and your moment, so make the most of it by shopping around for your best option.
After it’s all over — you did your homework, talked to her friends, shopped around and finally picked one out, you’ll probably just going to want to get the ring out of your hands (and on to hers) as quickly as possible. You’re not done yet though. Planning the proposal is just as important as buying the ring, so make it count. It doesn’t have to be elaborate, or over the top but it should go beyond a text saying, “Oh, by the way, I bought you an engagement ring.” After all, you only get once chance to pull off an amazing proposal. So just like you did with the ring, come up with a plan that you know she’ll truly love.
When you see you see your first diamond, you will probably be awestruck. It’s shiny, sparkly and looks perfect. At this point, you might be tempted to whip out your wallet and call it a day. Don’t do it. Diamonds are not all the same and the first price you’re quoted won’t always be the best price. Play the field and shop around, ask lots of questions, take your time.
Original Post from Huffington Post
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Photographers get this response very often, “your hour session is how much?” or “that’s all I get?”
Here’s some food for thought: When your wedding is over, after a year of planning, all the food, all the decorations, the guests, the cake, the mess, what do you have left to show for the most important day of your life? Nothing, that is NOTHING BUT YOUR MEMORY—IN PHOTOS! I broke it down earlier today, for a “inexpensive” wedding photographer, you’ll pay around $1300-$1500+, sounds high to some people, right? Broken down into the hours spent that your photographer actually puts into a wedding, they make about $8-$10 an hour! If you want specifics, I can break it down for you. When you are on a “BUDGET” for your wedding, consider this, can’t afford that $1000 DJ, or $2000 Caterer??…..look for someone with experience that will do it within your budget… Can’t find one, look here:http://www.budgetbrides.org.
Some brides spend $3500 or more on the Venue, there’s SO MANY beautiful places to be married at a much more reasonable price. You’d be surprised at how beautiful a backyard wedding can be!
Think about what’s left when you are all said and done….NOTHING BUT YOUR MEMORY—IN PHOTOS. The photos you have left over from your big day, should be the most important thing on the list, besides your better half of course. And consider this, if you hire a photographer for $500, or a family friend to use their dlsr they bought for $400 at Best Buy, that’s exactly what you’ll get, someone with no experience documenting the MOST important day of your life. Is that really what you want? I regrettably did not have a photographer at my wedding, and every time I look back at my photos it makes me sad, yes sad, because it was a beautiful day and we only have a handful of photos to prove it. Taken by a friend, not even with a dslr…only with a point and shoot.
You really do get what you pay for.
Most people have no idea the amount of hours that go into a wedding or editing just a family session. Broken down, about 40-70 hours, yes you heard right, 1 to 2 weeks worth of work. Ask yourself this: Would I work for $8-$10 an hour? The answer is most often than not, NO!
Oh and for the mom who doesn’t want to get in a family photo because you think you are too big or want to wait till you lose 10 more lbs, {not to break your heart} but it’s NOT about YOU! YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL TO YOUR CHILDREN, and NO MATTER WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT YOUR LOOKS, YOUR CHILDREN LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT. When you are gone, it won’t matter to your children what your weight was when you took that photo, it WILL ONLY MATTER THAT YOU WERE IN THAT PHOTO–BECAUSE THAT’S WHAT’S LEFT OVER—YOUR MEMORY—IN PHOTOS! To them, that is PRICELESS! Trust me, they will cherish the photo long after you are gone, so when you think you can’t afford a photographer, remember this, your photos are PRICELESS!!!!!!! Oh and don’t forget to print them!
